Love, Being Loved, and Sexuality

The source of our love is not the person we love, but ourselves. The way we love someone is not about the person we love, but about who we are. To the extent that our center lies within us, we do not perceive the possibility of separation from someone as if a part of our identity is being torn away. As we internalize our center, we begin to realize that our capacity to love resides within us, that no one can take it away, and that if we were able to love someone so deeply and beautifully, we are capable of loving another in the same way.

The relationship we build with another person reveals a great deal about the relationship we have with ourselves. The foundations of how we relate to ourselves, the world, and others are rooted in our early years. Love, Being Loved, and Sexuality, drawing on studies from the object relations theory, explores how the self emerges within relationships.

Starting from the womb, it examines how our childhood continues to shape our present—addressing topics such as the reasons behind our partner choices, why our sexual fantasies are often rooted in our deepest fears, how and why our sexuality acts as a mirror, our psychological genders, our relationship with food, temperature, softness and hardness, distance and closeness, the psychology of constipation, and pathways to healing within relationships.